Its been a busy few months with little or no privacy to write anything. A lot has happened though.
The kitchen is still looking lovely and I also repainted bits of the bathroom and DS1 finally put up some handrails for DD to help her move around when she's extra tired.
We are also saving up to redo the roof over the bathroom to finally stop water coming in...it needs extreme wind as well as rain but its still not good and has to be sorted. It not cheap but we are saving hard and the roofer was kind enough to say he'd take the money in instalments if necessary.
We also got another cat. I had refused as DD is realistically way too tired and poorly to cope with settling in a new cat and introducing Grundo and all that. But she refused to accept it so she is now complaining she is exhausted by our new cat, a 14 year old called Ruth (after Ruth Bader Ginsburg). Ruth needed a new home after her owner had to go into home and she has very plainly not been happy about any of this. Weirdly she is the most nervous of our cats but seems happy with DD and affectionate which is very much what DD demanded....she is lucky her new cat provided what she wants.
DD has been having massive amounts of face pain and she eventually agreed to find a dentist and see if her teeth were causing the problem. She had a tooth that needed a crown which was way beyond DD's ability to cope with so she got the tooth pulled and after a couple of days it seems to be doing the trick. She also needs her wisdom teeth taking out but she'll need to go to the Dental Hospital for that and get them taken out under general anaesthetic...no one is looking forward to that, though they have been causing pain for years.
Had a phone call from DM recently to say she has breast cancer...why not lung cancer given her heavy smoking for more than 60 years is a mystery! I was less than sympathetic she is 78 and there is no indication its more than Stage 1 or 2 so I'm not rushing to be by her side. I am already expecting the complaints from DF about why we should all turn up for Xmas as it 'may be DM's last'. Won't work...even if DD was well enough to leave the house DS1 refusing to go again and DS2 will only go if I insist because he doesn't like them. I have no desire to see either of them and would be only too happy to hear its actually Stage 4 cancer and she has weeks to live...I'm not that lucky though.
Other than that DS1 is finally learning to drive which is positive and he's also doing a joinery course which is driving him insane as its sooo basic, though does eventually lead to proper qualification and the prospect of jobs he's bothered to do.
DS2 is finding life hard and boring and he's grown up and he's scared about being independent...its all a mess. He tries hard and he can be lovely but he can also be unpleasant.
DP continues to be a self absorbed arse. Fortunately he has been away for work for a few weeks which is good but he let drop the unpleasant information that he is off for a lot of days in December...what a crap run up to Xmas! It was recently DS1's birthday which DP totally ignored. I expected him to ignore mine...it was on the 100th anniversary to the armistice in 1918 and it would have been inappropriate to celebrate a birthday that day. But to totally ignore your son's birthday is ignorant even for DP. No wonder he is not popular! He has taken to huffing and generally behaving as if he is being verbally attacked if I try to ask him a question or reply to anything he says...its increasingly apparent he requires and audience not a participant in any 'conversation'.
