The last update was in October and it’s now nearly the end of February, that shows what kind of time we’ve all been having.
Lots has happened
- Aidan’s bathroom has been finished. It’s very shiny and he loves it. Fortunately it means DP has totally abandoned the other bathroom which is all good.
- DS1 has not only sorted his mortgage, which he did over New Year but he found a house and is in the process of buying it! Really happy for him, it’s going to need a huge amount of work but it will be worth it to get a house I imagine he’ll be in forever.
- DP was whinging about his vision in one eye being off…didn’t stop him driving. He was referred to the eye hospital and it was a detached retina…he really is falling to pieces! Anyway he had an emergency operation and was off work unable to drive for 2 weeks…he was soooo needy and following me around everywhere I can see him being retired will be heinous! Anyway he needs a second operation which is booked for the end of March, hopefully he’ll be less annoying this time round.
- The bad news is that DD is now bedridden. They have been declining for years and getting increasingly poorly for a year or so but the final drop was still a shock. It was just before Xmas, after a hospital appointment and they were finally, definitely severe ME rather than the borderline severe/moderate they’ve been insisting they were for years.Unfortunately this means we have had to stop swimming which they loved but they struggle to get from the bed to their chair! The situation isn’t helped by the extremes of pain they are in all the time, which means they get little to no sleep. Not fun.
I phoned DF in the new year mainly so I could vent about how scary it is with DD being so very poorly and how much DS1 was struggling to find a house he could afford that he wanted … DF had no interest in hearing any of it. All he wants are ‘conversations’ where he tells me about his walks and I tell him everything is fine. Not particularly supportive or helpful! To give him his due he doesn’t huff and roll his eyes if I deign to speak which DP very much does…he really is getting to the point where he has no filter left and he is not a pleasant person and has zero interest in anyone but himself. Not sure when he last spoke to DD at all, not a conversation he doesn’t do those with anyone, but just spoke to them…years ago I would guess. He does try to monologue DS1 occasionally but doesn’t get very far. He has been aggressive and unpleasant and bullying to DS2 for years and that’s not stopping…even though they do plenty together. He’s not a good person. He tells me how witty and clever he is on Facebook and will monologue at me about shit he’s seen on YouTube but I’m very deaf and can ignore most of it. I haven’t done any washing, shopping, ironing, cooking or cleaning for him in years. Not sure what he’s getting from staying…a pleasant home and someone who sorts the upkeep of the house I guess. I know what I get and its money…he earns and we would struggle to survive without his money…which is going to be fun when he retires! Still I’ll cross that bridge when I get to it.
Hopefully we get more good news than bad over the course of the year. The world news is scarily bad…Trump is plainly dying and has severe Alzheimer’s which is less than ideal in someone who has access to the nuclear codes! He is being managed by a bunch of heinous white supremacists. We have Starmer who has no convictions political or otherwise and is probably going to let the fascists in Reform win the next election…no ideal. The Epstein papers are being released cribs and drabs and show a network of horrific abuse and entitlement …no one is going to be held accountable for any of their crimes but it does show how we have ended up in a world with no morals or empathy.
